Anyone's first time is going to be a big deal. And certainly, on her wedding night, the pressure might overwhelm what is important—experiencing your love and expressing it physically. Honestly, you don't need a lot of tricks to make it meaningful.
It sounds like doggy maximizes his impact but still have not found the perfect approach, even with all your Shapes. Unfortunately, anything with him standing is not going to work unless you are lifted up to align with his dick. Unless your man can do squats like Bruce Lee, he won't be able to come down to your level. It's going to be impossible for him to lower himself for long periods. It will take experimentation to find the alignment that works for both of you.
We are surrounded by media and movies that tell us women should orgasm in 5 seconds and only through vaginal sex. Needing anything else is perceived as wrong or not sexy. Not only that, there is an assumption on men that they should be able to make a woman orgasm just like that—nothing more than their magic penis needed.
I tend to think that it changes your expectations rather than sensations. A vibrator can feel more intense and work faster than your hand or mouth. After some time, you can grow to expect that level of sensation and that reaction from your body.
Pressure is an orgasm killer. If she gets a whiff that you are wondering what is taking her so long, or catches you acting like you are too eager to reach the finish line, it's done. What she needs is to feel comfortable. Let her know that there is nowhere else you would rather be. You could do this all day—and keep in mind you have to mean it because statistically speaking, most women take up to 45 minutes to reach orgasm.
Sex is about so much more than the position you are in—it's about the joy of being close to someone you love, and it sounds like you have that in spades. Remember, it's the journey, not the destination, and if something doesn't work the first time it can take a bit of practice to get everything flowing as it should.
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