Getting tied up is one of the most common sexual fantasies. For some people, it's about the struggle to get free, while others enjoy the sense of surrender. However, the one thing that is most loved about rope bondage is that it is multi-functional. Not only does it keep someone immobilized, it can also be a beautifully captivating body adornment or it can be used to create pleasurable pressure points.
Originating from the land of the rising sun, rope bondage has a fascinating and long history that's been perfected over many centuries, which then was finally integrated into western culture. There are varying disciplines of bondage that includes Shibari; the aesthetic's that relate to the bindings or knots; Kinbaku, the erotic element that people sometimes confuse with Shibari. Then there is America's love affair with the pin-up queen's like Betty Page, which ultimately influenced a different style often portrayed as Western Rope Bondage. When we say "western rope bondage", we are referring to the fusion between the east and the west, the mix of Japanese traditional bindings with something modern, symmetrical and theatrical.
Know Your Rope
The only thing that is required for this type of bedroom bound performance art is quality materials (preferably not from a hardware store) imagination, and your willingness to explore. But before you proceed, take a look at
Kink 101: Bondage Safety. The journey toward this type of erotic play revolves around having the right kind of binding ties or rope. If you are just starting out, bamboo silk rope or the
Liberator Silk Binding Sashes are a great way to begin. Silk feels incredibly smooth against the skin and it is strong enough to keep your partner securely bound and colorfully adorned. Once you feel confident in your rope skills, you can try introducing a more robust rope.
Hemp is extremely popular with BDSM enthusiasts. It creates and holds onto knots better than its silky counterpart, and the textural fibers can induce a pleasurable feeling when gently run across the skin, nipples or genitals. Plus, when the fun is done, you'll be reminded with the most impressive and sexy skin indentations.
There is one term (bight) that you will see and hear a lot of when learning about bondage. The bight is the center of the rope when it's folded in half.
Bondage Building Blocks
Single Cuff
Learning the manage your rope does take time and what better way to get familiar with your partner than the single column cuff. This classic knot is the most basic of ties. Using the silk bamboo 15’ (6mm) rope, start with by folding your rope in half and holding onto the bight.
Next, take the bight and wrap it around your partner’s arm just above the wrist. The more the rope that is wrapped, the more secure and comfortable the restraint.
Pass the bight across the wrapping and then slip it under the cuff.
Tie a square knot using the bight and the rest of the rope to complete the cuff. The lead rope can be attached to a bedpost or another part of the body.
Two Column Tie
Place both arms parallel to each other, leaving a little space between the wrists. Using the silk bamboo 15’ (6mm) rope, start with the bight and wrap around both limbs.
After the last wrap, cross the bight with the remaining rope so that they are parallel to the arms.
Pass the ends of the rope to the underside side of the tie and complete with a square knot. The tying of the knot is what makes the wrists come closer together.
Chest Harness
Using your rope or silk binding sash, begin with a Lark's Head knot around the rib cage and center it in the back.
Then wrap the rope around the ribs right below the breasts. by pulling the rope or silk binding sash around the body and under the breasts and back through the bight. Going the opposite direction, wrap around the body again but this time over the breasts.
Go over the shoulder and slide the rope down and between the breasts, picking up the lower wrap, and then give an extra twist as you come back up over the other shoulder. When you come to the back, you can tie it off with a square know or take the remaining rope to weave it into a decorative knot. The remaining lead can then be used to tie the hand in the back or attached to the ankles.
Bringing any type of bondage into your sex life begins with just one simple step—willingness. Once you get the hang of a few basics, there’s a whole world of decorative and functional ties to discover. It can provide hours of excitement and fun, whether you do the tying or you're the one being tied.
For more visual tips and tricks, the book Bondage Basics is a great place to start.