Fascinator FLOW: Say YES! To Period Sex

Sexual escapades shouldn't screech to a halt for a week just because of your period. In fact, period sex can be AMAZING – there are lots of benefits and relatively few drawbacks. Sure, it can be messy, but we have a great solution for that problem. And, if you work past stigmas, tame your embarrassment, and embrace the natural wonders, you’ll discover why saying “Yes!” to period sex is so satisfying. Join us as we explore the ups and downs of the Red Moon. 

What are the benefits of period sex? Well, for starters, it can relieve the symptoms of PMS like cramps. The contractions from sex can shorten your period too. Period sex might help migraines and headaches (though I tend to avoid sex when my head hurts, so it’s hard to motivate me to try this remedy).  There’s no loss of sexual intimacy if you have period sex. For prolific couples, waiting a week for sex to resume is frustrating. You lose connection and get cranky (well, we do). 

Thanks to the menstrual flow, you have lots of extra lubrication, which feels great. Women may also find that they have a higher sex drive during their periods or have increased sensitivity. It might be easier to orgasm and things will feel heightened in new ways. 

I never experienced severe PMS or cramps until after I got an IUD. For six months, it aggravated my uterus and wreaked havoc. My periods became extremely heavy (stretching out to a full 7 days of ridiculous bleeding that soaked ultra tampons in 2 hours), my moods went wild, and I had miserable cramping. The only saving grace was period sex. The endorphins eased the symptoms and the continual, uninterrupted physical connection with my partner smoothed out my ragged emotions.

Once upon a time, I didn’t have period sex. In my 20s I assumed that all men were grossed out by menstruation. Fast forward a few years and the landscape changed. Sure, some guys were hesitant to ride the red tide, but some guys were completely unfazed. In fact, one guy was THRILLED to get his “red wings” (as he so eloquently put it). Haha. We tried sex in the shower, but it wasn’t comfortable. Same for towels. Towels don’t protect the surfaces under them and weren’t necessarily soft to the touch. Even with towels, I bled all over things. 

I think most people encounter the same drawbacks with period sex. We worry about the mess going everywhere because blood stains fabric and is difficult to get out of bedding and upholstery. There are stigmas to consider and the potential for embarrassment. (Yes, I read The Red Tent. I’m very glad that we no longer sequester women because of their menses. Though I’m not quite up for free bleeding, mainly because it’s simply impractical.) 

You might worry about bacteria and such. If that’s a concern, condoms are of course a good idea. Or skipping cunnilingus. Maybe you think it’s gross or wrong. Don’t do it if you feel truly uncomfortable with it (this goes for men and women). 

Having your period heightens physical and emotional sensitivity too, which can be a great thing or overwhelming at times. I used to cry every month on the day before my period started and have a migraine. Now, I find that my cervix gets extremely sensitive. Sharp, deep penetration is painful, so I prefer slower thrusts during my period. 

You might worry about additional pain or period trots (a common side effect as your body emits hormones to expel the uterine lining). There are a lot of things going on biologically speaking. So, what’s a bloody babe to do?

Back to Red Winger…we hit it off and didn’t let anything slow us down. There was only one major problem — the MESS. I hate using menstrual cups, and from my experience, men don’t like the way they feel either. Sans any barrier, at peak flow, the bedding was destroyed and the sofa looked like a crime scene. We needed something to manage the mayhem! 

Enter the best invention for period sex ever. THE FASCINATOR. Liberator designed this washable, dryable, velvety-soft throw with a waterproof inner liner, so liquids can’t seep through the material. You can bleed all over it and not a drop will touch your duvet, sofa, car seat, etc. We use a Fascinator King to cover our bed. The thick, plush fabric feels amazing against your skin and soaks up any fluids. 

The Fascinator Queen or Fascinator Travel size are perfect for romps on beds, sofas, and other furniture. The Fascinator Mini is fantastic for small spaces, but might not give you enough acreage if your flow is super heavy. Liberator also makes a Fascinator Toy Pad, which is a convenient landing spot for lube, toys, and massage oils, protecting your nightstand from spills and germs. 

By the way, don’t worry about the Fascinator’s absorbency – it will soak up any fluids and not let them bleed through. When you feel the density of this amazing throw blanket, you’ll understand. The Fascinator makes the after-sex cleanup nearly effortless. When your rouge rodeo is over, toss the Fascinator in the washing machine on cold and tumble dry low. Your throw will be fresh and clean for the next adventure!

(You can use the Fascinator to protect your bedding and other surfaces during anal sex, food play, water sports, etc. And, it’s a must-have for squirters, too!)

 Fascinator Toy Pad

Even though period sex has its challenges, passion and spontaneity shouldn’t sidelined during that time of the month. The Fascinator unleashes a world of possibilities, offering both practicality and pleasure. So, next time you find yourself pondering whether or not to get bloody, remember that with The Fascinator, you can confidently choose to let love flow, mess-free. Say “YES” to period sex with The Fascinator as your trusty, waterproof wingman!