Smartphones are assimilated into every facet of our lives, especially our sex lives. Nothing like having a mini porn theater, and endless opportunities to connect with other people, in the palm of your hand. Whether you’re technologically challenged or a Silicon Valley whiz, you might be missing out on exhilarating sex tech and the latest in app-controlled toys. Join us in exploring why you should use app-control toys and how to get connected.
Digital Lover
For expediency's sake, most of us reach for sex toys that are easy to operate, maintain, and clean. It takes a little patience to figure out a new app and connect the toy via Bluetooth (or sometimes a proprietary system). Why bother with something seemingly so complicated? We are all used to handling our phones, often single-handedly. So you can control the app with one hand and free up your other hand for holding the toy (or go completely hands-free, depending on the toy). Your partner can control the app, either in person or remotely from ANYWHERE. That’s a really cool feature if you have a long-distance relationship or like to explore your kinks outside the bedroom.
Going Public
Like having a dirty secret out in public? Wear your app-control device out to dinner, a bar, or the dance floor. Your partner can discreetly amp it up via their phone and watch you react as the waves of pleasure hit you. The app-control toys are usually quiet enough to wear anywhere and fit snugly. Some of the panty-vibe devices have magnets to attach them for additional security.
How To Connect
There are many ways to connect with your sex toys. Most companies have proprietary apps that you can download from your app store. Their functions range from simple controls to creative customization (programming in your own vibration patterns), remote functions for long-distance play, and syncing with VR headsets and 2D media. Download the recommended app and read through the user’s manual. For example, I downloaded the Svakom app, FeelConnect 3, LELO, Lovense Remote, and We-Vibe. Give yourself and the app a little patience when installing, setting up, and the initial performances. It might take a few tries to get it just right.
Sync with Svakom
Innovative toy companies like Svakom have created devices that can sync up to your 2D media, giving you sensations in time to the action. Toys from Svakom, like the Phoenix Neo 2 and Pulse Lite Neo, have connectivity via the Svakom and FeelConnect apps. The Svakom app gives you local and long-distance control. The Feel Connect app also allows for long-distance control as well as connecting to interactive camming and porn sites. The Phoenix Neo 2 has a light that responds to your media as well and works great for camming and giving your lover a show.
LELO’s Sexy Swedish App
LELO toys, like the Ida Wave, connect via Bluetooth through the app. The app is like everything LELO does…refined, elegant, sex-positive, and exceptional. They have informative blog articles, sexy stories, tips, positions, love advice, and news. My LELO Toy’s page is so clean and simple. It shows you the available toys, complete with a thumbnail pic, and lets you connect.
Lovense Makes Sense
The Lovense App offers a lot of customization options and syncing capabilities, perfect for their Lovense Ferri Panty Vibe. The app is easy to navigate. You can control the pleasure with Remote, create your own patterns in My Patterns, select Music from Apple Music (sorry, Spotify no longer allows third-party app engagement), set an alarm if you’d enjoy a surprise later on, and set the toy to sync with ambient sounds around you (music, jackhammers, anything!).
You create a log-in and profile for Long Distance control that you can share with a friend and you can control theirs too! Under Discover, you can view other people’s unique patterns, with comments. There’s Speed Mode that responds to how fast you are going in a car (I REALLY want to try this setting!). Some features like Control Link and Wish List require you to log in. Using a Lovense Bluetooth Dongle, you can even connect your toy to a computer, which is great for camming and having it respond when you get tipped. Just keep in mind that the Lovense Ferri is powerful and can be a little loud at higher settings. Wear it somewhere noisy...NOT a quiet restaurant.
Stroke It
If you’re willing to put in the “leg work”, you can get a great porn-enhanced stroker job from The Handy Stroker. The Handy Stroker offers next-level male masturbation by syncing with VR headsets to enjoy porn while the machine works on your hotrod. Follow these easy directions: connect the Handy to Wi-Fi, connect your VR Headset to Wi-Fi, install DeoVR on your headset, and subscribe to SexLikeReal for content. Then you start DeoVR on your headset and navigate the browser to sexlikereal.com. Once there, from the bottom toolbar, click Settings, then the Interactive tab. Enter your Handy connection key and click Connect. Enable the Sex Toys filter to see compatible videos. Select your video and enjoy the Handy Stroker synchronized motions. Sounds a little complex, but the payoff and options are limitless.
We Really Vibe with We-Vibe
We-Vibe creates insightful, high-tech, body-safe app-control toys, including butt plugs, panty vibrators, and couples vibrators. We-Vibe invented the Chorus and Sync couples vibrators…toys specifically designed for use during penetrative sex. The Chorus has been a bestseller for years, featuring a Squeeze Remote for exceptional responsiveness. Sync is a newer iteration of the same concept, but allows long-distance control. Both the Chorus and Sync are designed to be used during sex, or solo, and feature a remote control and app controls. How do they differ? The Chorus has a slightly more snug fit, better remote connectivity, and a squeeze remote. The Sync has simpler app connectivity (no remote required), longer battery life, and is $50 cheaper than the Chorus.
The We-Vibe Moxie is the perfect discreet panty vibrator for public play. The slip-proof magnet keeps it secured in place for hands-free use, and the app lets you or your partner control it from anywhere (as long as you have a wireless connection). The Moxie gets up to 2 hours on a single charge and features 10+ vibration settings.
We-Vibe didn’t forget to include butt lovers in sex tech. The Vector vibrating prostate massager is a gem. Enthusiasts laud its rumbly vibrations and app control functions. The app lets you create custom patterns and play with other We-Vibe toys. The soft, flexible silicone body fits snugly inside to stimulate the prostate and perineum perfectly. The Vector is super quiet so you can use it anywhere and give your partner control via the app.
Start Your Engines
Sure, the early days of sex tech may have been a bit clunky, but now, the apps and toys are more refined, user-friendly, and reliable than ever before. Toy companies have expanded the possibilities for public, long-distance, and solo play, interacting with music and 2D media. App control toys give us thrilling new ways to explore our kinks and desires. Intense connections. Bonfire-hot sex. Earth-shattering orgasms. There’s an app for that.
Smartphones are assimilated into every facet of our lives, especially our sex lives. Nothing like having a mini porn theater, and endless opportunities to connect with other people, in the palm of your hand. Sometimes they isolate us, but they have greater potential to bring us together in kinky new ways. Whether you’re technologically challenged or a Silicon Valley whiz, you might be missing out on exhilarating sex tech and the latest in app-controlled toys. Join us in exploring why you should use app-control toys and how to get connected.
Digital Lover
For expediency's sake, most of us reach for sex toys that are easy to operate, maintain, and clean. It takes a little patience to figure out a new app and connect the toy via Bluetooth (or sometimes a proprietary system). Why bother with something seemingly so complicated? We are all used to handling our phones, often single-handedly. So you can control the app with one hand and free up your other hand for holding the toy (or go completely hands-free, depending on the toy). Your partner can control the app, either in person or remotely from ANYWHERE. That’s a really cool feature if you have a long-distance relationship or like to explore your kinks outside the bedroom.
Going Public
Like having a dirty secret out in public? Wear your app-control device out to dinner, a bar, or the dance floor. Your partner can discreetly amp it up on their phone and watch you react as the waves of pleasure hit you. The app-control toys are usually quiet enough to wear anywhere and fit snugly. Some of the panty-vibe devices have magnets to attach them for additional security.
How To Connect
There are many ways to connect with your sex toys. Most companies have proprietary apps that you can download from your app store. Their functions range from simple controls to creative customization (programming in your own vibration patterns), remote functions for long-distance play, and syncing with VR headsets and 2D media. Download the recommended app and read through the user’s manual. For example, I downloaded the Svakom app, FeelConnect 3, LELO, Lovense Remote, and We-Vibe. Give yourself and the app a little patience when installing, setting up, and the initial performances. It might take a few tries to get it just right.
Sync With Svakom
Innovative toy companies like Svakom have created devices that can sync up to your 2D Media, giving you sensations in time to the action. Toys from Svakom, like the Phoenix Neo and Pulse Lite Neo, have connectivity via the Svakom and FeelConnect apps. The Svakom app gives you local and long-distance control. The Feel Connect app also allows for long-distance control as well as connecting to interactive camming and porn sites. The Phoenix Neo 2 has a light that responds to your media as well and works great for camming and giving your lover a show.
LELO’s Sexy Swedish App
LELO toys, like the Ida Wave, connect via Bluetooth through the app. The app is like everything LELO does…refined, elegant, sex-positive, and exceptional. They have informative blog articles, sexy stories, tips, positions, love advice, and news. My LELO Toy’s page is so clean and simple. It shows you the available toys, complete with a thumbnail pic, and lets you connect.
Lovense Makes Sense
The Lovense App offers a lot of customization options and syncing capabilities, perfect for their Lovense Ferri Panty Vibe. The app is easy to navigate. You can control the pleasure with Remote, create your own patterns in My Patterns, select Music from Apple Music (sorry, Spotify no longer allows third-party app engagement), set an alarm if you’d enjoy a surprise later on, and set the toy to sync with ambient sounds around you (music, jackhammers, anything!).


You create a log-in and profile for Long Distance control that you can share with a friend and you can control theirs too! Under Discover, you can view other people’s unique patterns, with comments. There’s Speed Mode that responds to how fast you are going in a car (I REALLY want to try this setting!). Some features like Control Link and Wish List require you to log in. Using a Lovense Bluetooth Dongle, you can even connect your toy to a computer, which is great for camming and having it respond when you get tipped. Just keep in mind that the Lovense Ferri is powerful and can be a little loud at higher settings. Wear it somewhere noisy–not a quiet restaurant.
Stroke It
If you’re willing to put in the “leg work”, you can get a great porn-enhanced stroker job from The Handy Stroker. The Handy Stroker offers next-level male masturbation by syncing with VR headsets to enjoy porn while the machine works on your hotrod. Follow these easy directions: connect the Handy to Wi-Fi, connect your VR Headset to Wi-Fi, install DeoVR on your headset, and subscribe to SexLikeReal for content. Then you start DeoVR on your headset and navigate the browser to sexlikereal.com. Once there, from the bottom toolbar, click Settings, then the Interactive tab. Enter your Handy connection key and click Connect. Enable the Sex Toys filter to see compatible videos. Select your video and enjoy the Handy Stroker’s synchronized motions. Sounds a little complex, but the payoff and options are limitless.


We Really Vibe with We-Vibe
We-Vibe creates insightful, high-tech, body-safe app-control toys, including butt plugs, panty vibrators, and couples vibrators. We-Vibe invented the Chorus and Sync couples vibrators…toys specifically designed for use during penetrative sex. The Chorus has been a bestseller for years, featuring a Squeeze Remote for exceptional responsiveness. Sync is a newer iteration of the same concept, but allows long-distance control. Both the Chorus and Sync are designed to be used during sex, or solo, and feature a remote control and app controls. How do they differ? The Chorus has a slightly more snug fit, better remote connectivity, and a squeeze remote. The Sync has simpler app connectivity (no remote required), longer battery life, and is $50 cheaper than the Chorus.
The We-Vibe Moxie is the perfect discreet panty vibrator for public play. The slip-proof magnet keeps it secured in place for hands-free use, and the app lets you or your partner control it from anywhere (as long as you have a wireless connection). The Moxie gets up to 2 hours on a single charge and features 10+ vibration settings.


We-Vibe didn’t forget to include butt lovers in sex tech. The Vector vibrating prostate massager is a gem. Enthusiasts laud its rumbly vibrations and app control functions. The app lets you create custom patterns and play with other We-Vibe toys. The soft, flexible silicone body fits snugly inside to stimulate the prostate and perineum perfectly. The Vector is super quiet so you can use it anywhere and give your partner control via the app.


Start Your Engines
Sure, the early days of sex tech may have been a bit clunky, but now, the apps and toys are more refined, user-friendly, and reliable than ever before. Toy companies have expanded the possibilities for public, long-distance, and solo play, interacting with music and 2D media. App control toys give us thrilling new ways to explore our kinks and desires. Intense connections. Bonfire-hot sex. Earth-shattering orgasms. There’s an app for that.