Romancing the Rosebud: Foreplay Tips for Anal Sex Beginners

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Anal Sex Foreplay Tips for Beginners

April 18th is officially Anal Sex Day! But what about anal sex foreplay day? Just because there's a designated day for anal sex does not mean you need to jump at the chance at trying something brand spanking new. So, before you start bending over and sliding things into your backdoor it's important that you begin with lots and lots of anal sex foreplay. In fact, romancing the delicate rosebud should be a mandatory day on the calendar too.

Here are the top ways you can romance the rosebud with anal sex foreplay.

The Prelude to Penetration

Word to the wise: Anal sex always feels best when you're highly aroused. The anus is a very sensitive area and deserves a lot of attention and stimulation beforehand. Make anal sex foreplay a significant part of your lovemaking ritual. If not, the cat-like reflexes of the rectum will instantly shut down tighter than the vault at Fort Knox.

Erotic Massage

A gentle, erotic massage around the anal opening is one of the best ways of getting your lover revved up during anal sex foreplay. Not only does it feel erotic, but it can also provide beneficial blood flow to the area. Get your partner's rosebud to unfold by gently stroking around the opening with soft, swirling motions with your finger with pjur Backdoor Glide. This jojoba based lubes helps soften the delicate tissue and relaxes your partner's reflexes. They will let you know whether or not you're on the right track just from their response.

Salad Bar Buffet

We get that analingus—a.k.a. tossing the salad—is not for everyone. But it's not as bad as you think. Obviously, cleanliness is next to sexiness in this case. Some couples perform enemas beforehand just to alleviate any worry. If washing out your rectum is not part of the equation then a spritz of warm water and soap using a showerhead will suffice. If you don't want your tongue to get that close, you can place a condom or latex glove between you and their anus. From there, use your tongue, lips, and breath warm air to gently stimulate their delicate starfish.

Tools of the Trade for Anal Sex Foreplay

Anal sex foreplay is a great opportunity for creativity. There are tons of anal-specific sex toys that provide amazing sensations. For anal sex beginners, we recommend starting with something basic. The b-Vibe Anal Training Kit works well for couples just learning about this new pleasure spot. Butt plugs are all the rage these days. There are all types of glass plugs, silicone plugs, metal plugs, decorative plugs for anal sex foreplay. If you want to get really fancy, the stainless steel Njoy Pure Plug feels just as good as it looks. For beginners, we recommend starting off with a small plug and gradually moving your way to the larger version. The cool things about these plugs are they be worn long-term and offer the wearer a sensational full feeling.

Graduating from anal probes to using something substantial is fairly easy. The B-Vibe Novice Butt Plug is the newest toy specially designed for anal play beginners. Not too big or too small, this B-Vibe plug is shaped for anybody. The kicker is this baby has got powerful vibrations and is equipped with a wireless remote. You might be open to trying actual anal sex after using the B-Vibe a few times.

No Worry Anal Sex Foreplay Positions

There is no right or wrong position when it comes to anal sex. What it really all boils down to is different positions offer different sensations. Almost like a slow dance between lovers, anal sex calls for deliberate and focused movements. One misstep and the tango are over. The key to electrifying anal is making sure your bodies are aligned. This will help in making you feel relaxed and in control. The Wedge/Ramp Combo provides just the right angles, leverage, and access for backdoor entry. Don't be afraid to play with the pieces and find a configuration that works for you.

Lube is Your Friend

Lubrication makes everything run smoother. Although the anus produces small amounts of mucus, it really is not enough for any type of penetration. The point is to create a slippery enough entryway for making penetration feel smooth and effortless. Since you can never use too much, you'll want a lube that feels silky and not sticky. Our recommendation is silicone-based lubes. Its high concentration of silicone makes anal sex feel like a "let's do it again" adventure. And remember --- NO spit or saliva—please, for obvious reasons.

Teaching Mr./Ms. Tingle

Unlike your asshole, the realm of anal sex foreplay is wide and vast. There is no need to rush the experience. It's a journey, not a race. What works one day may not work another. Take your time opening up a world of pleasure.