By Kalah, Liberator Love Artist
This is not a shout out to Mr. Grey. This is an intro to bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism.
Don’t let those words scare you.
Mutual consent is key and sexual expression should never escalate to nor be mistaken for acts of violence or aggression.
The word sadism comes from our friend, the Marquis De Sade. He was known for his liberalism when it came to sex. His views were subversive. Sounds familiar, right?
There’s a lot of overlap between the queer community and the bdsm community. We like to use labels to more easily identify ourselves. I’m a Tomboy and I’m also a submissive.
Much like the label I choose to identify myself in discussions on sexuality, the label I choose to define my relationship with BDSM is my own decision and it doesn’t box me in. I am an individual.
Rev Jen, a sex enthusiast and writer of BDSM 101, responds with a question when people ask “Why not just have vanilla sex?” Well, why only eat for nutrition? Explore your hidden cravings and savor chocolate dipped pleasure.
So don’t feel afraid of your desire if the Talea Spreader Bar calls to you. Follow your heart if the Obéir Spanking Bench is your thing.Slip on a sexy blindfold and try a little sensory deprivation. For the record, all Liberator leather is handmade by a leather artisan. That means your beautiful new Fillie Paddle will be crafted and enjoyed with care.
If I am going to make a blanket statement about sex in the queer community, it’s that no blanket statement can be made about sex in the queer community. Some like it hot, some like to stick to defined roles. Similarly, in the bdsm world you do what feels good. And with the proper safety precautions, you explore your interests.
Got questions for Kalah? Email her at firstname.lastname@example.org