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Everyone’s love life deserves a second opinion. Ava is here to answer questions about Liberator products, your sex life, or sex in general. Curious about the best sex positions for a bad back? Wondering how to fit your playtime into a busy schedule? Trying to find the perfect toy to surprise your spouse with? Ava is here to help.

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I have been thinking about purchasing the Wedge/Ramp Combo, and I would like to know if it’s worth the investment. I want to be able to please my wife more, but be different at the same time. Also, is there something out there that can help a male last longer before ejaculation (which I’m kind of embarrassed about)?

One of my favorite topics: The Wedge/Ramp Combo! It has so many positions and benefits that I can go on for ages about—making me a real treat at dinner parties, as you can imagine. So, what is so freaking great about a couple of triangles?

A lot of testing has gone into the precise angles of the Wedge and Ramp. It makes sense if you think about it—your body is not in a prime position for sex when it is laid out flat. Your pelvis is not at the optimum angle for access, so your sensation is limited. It is basically like trying to fly an airplane into a hanger by dropping the airplane straight out of the sky. With just a little tilt, the hanger is wide open for an easy landing.

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The result is that you get the most out of your penetration. With the woman’s pelvis tilted, her partner can go deeper, hitting spots that would have otherwise been unaffected. The difference in penetration is surprising, even with the slight 7-inch lift of a Wedge. With a little maneuvering, you can hit her G-spot, and she will be primed for her nerve endings to come alive.

If you are concerned about longevity, going deeper can seem to work against you, but with the controlled thrusting possible with the Combo, it frees you up for a variety of techniques. These are enhanced by the increase in comfort and lack of fatigue. Try aiming without putting a lot of pressure on the tip of your penis—that will help keep your sensations in check.

Also, some men are able to delay orgasm by pushing down as they thrust. This puts pressure at the base of the penis and creates a light numb by blocking the blood flow. This is even easier with the Wedge/Ramp Combo because it frees up your movements and makes the downward angle easier.

The repetitive thrusting that is most common is actually detrimental to lasting longer in bed. The repetition is what sends you skyrocketing to O-town, plus it can get boring for your wife. Keep her on the edge by mixing up some good solid thrusts with some angles to hit her G-spot and even some shallower thrusts.


The Taoists actually have a great technique called the Thrust in Time. Take your thrusts in groups of 10 and start with 9 shallow thrusts and then 1 deep thrust. Next, do 8 shallow thrusts and 2 deep thrusts, and so on. Even if you don’t make it to the end, the counting will keep your mind focused on your actions rather than pleasure and help you last longer.

Another aspect that can help with your stamina is the comfort of the positioning available. Take the classic doggy position, for instance. Your wife can bend over the Ramp, taking pressure off her knees. You can stand either off the bed or on your knees behind her without putting pressure on your joints or hers. In these moments, stop and smell the roses—so to speak—and show her some attention. Doggy on a Wedge/Ramp is the perfect position for giving a back massage during lovemaking, extending your pleasure and making your orgasm even better.

One of my favorite aspects about the Wedge/Ramp is that you don’t have to do some crazy swinging-from-the-rafters positions to have great sex. Even the tried and true missionary position has a little oomph added to it. Have your wife extend her body on the Ramp and use the Wedge under her head for comfort. You have more freedom of movement without having to put pressure on your joints or fight with the bed for stability. You can move the Wedge up and down the Ramp for support where she needs it—very beneficial to her comfort during from-behind positioning. But if you do want to go a little crazy with it, there are endless possibilities to get creative and go with the flow. Check out some recommended positions in this video.


That’s not to say all the benefits are physical. One of my favorite things about the experience of Liberator is that they bring couples closer—not just their bodies, but their hearts as well. There is nothing as exciting and fun as trying something new with someone you love. And anytime you bring your Shape out, you will know that you are doing something special, and a little theatrical, for your love life. Experimenting and planning new ways to use your Wedge/Ramp Combo are half the fun of owning one! You might not use the Wedge/Ramp Combo every time. Certainly, great sex is possible without them. But, sometimes, they are just what you need to reach maximum pleasure. Don’t take my word for it—check out reviews to see how many fans the Wedge/Ramp has received in its 14-year history. That’s a lot of happy couples!


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