Many men have fantasies about being sexually dominated by a woman wearing a harness and dildo—also known as pegging. But for many couples willing to try something new, it's hard to figure out what to do next. After all, you've never really been behind the wheel, so to speak. How do you steer this thing? What's the speed limit? No worries, we'll get you on the road to Strap-on-ia in no time.
Pegging Potential
The benefit for the guy is pretty obvious. Not only does he get to be subservient to a
hot mistress, the dildo will stimulate his p-spot, giving him mind-blowing orgasms. It has the potential for a woman as well. She can be in charge and let the power course through her. With a little imagination, she can feel intense emotions that resonate physically, making it satisfying for both partners. In fact, strap-on play has the potential to bring you both closer together because it requires a great deal of communication and vulnerability.
To make your pegging adventure more than just a one-hit wonder, we've come up with a few position ideas what will have him "pegging" for more.
Whoa Doggie!
Since many of you are probably novices at pegging, it's a good idea to start off in a position that allows for greater control and a good view of your target. Using the
Liberator Ramp, have your guy lie face down allowing his head and torso to rest comfortable downward on the angled slope. With his tuckus up in the air, you can easily kneel behind him while gently inserting the tip of the dildo into his anus.
Anti-Gravity
This pegging position works really well, especially if your lover is not too much bigger or heavier than you. Since gravity is not your friend, the
Liberator Wedge, firmly placed under your lower back, can provide more leverage and angle for easier upward thrusting. Once you feel comfortable, he can straddle you and slowly lower himself onto the dildo. Although a more advanced position, this can feel great for first timers too, especially when using a smaller sized apparatus. The great thing about this particular position too is that it allows him to stroke himself because he penis is within easy reach.
Victor/Victoria
This is standard missionary styled position but with a kinky twist. We love using the
Liberator Heart Wedge for this one because it not only offers height and a larger surface area, it also has a notch in the center which allows his balls to hang free. To master this pegging position, have him lay down on his back, and slip the Wedge under his bum to raise it upward. Maneuver yourself between his legs and lift them slightly while bending his knees. After entering him, you can lay on top of him for stimulating face to face, and skin to skin contact. Greater intimacy is created and allows you both to make eye contact, kiss, and embrace. Now, if he's really flexible, he can raise both legs over your shoulders, which will allow for deeper penetration and
prostate stimulation.
Stand at Attention
Another exciting variation for couples who enjoy more dominant play is having him stand on the floor and bent over on something that is either slightly below or above at the hip level. This submissive position makes it easier to grab and guide his hips while offering up a titillating spanking. To really anchor each giving thrust, the
Black Label Esse Chaise will give you both the proper support. He can move his feet to raise and lower himself, and you can have total domination by cuffing him to an exact location.
Side Saddle
The best part of pegging is getting to explore new territory, and it does take long to build your confidence. Although this one can be a little tricky at first, we find that it's totally worth it, especially for men with injuries or other mobility limitations. To begin, he lies on his side and brings the upper knee toward his chest—both the hip and knee are bent at a 90-degree, and the bottom leg straight. Level his tilt by sliding the
Wedge under the bent knee. Once your lover feels relaxed (and he will) straddle his lower leg and enter him slowly. The great thing about this position is that you can upgrade to a larger and longer dildo.
Or course, there are no hard and fast rules when it comes to pegging and strap-on play. Slowing down, releasing expectations, including more of you partner's pleasure, and touching with care is what makes the sex hotter and more fun. So before you go for broke, lay the foundation with tenderness and comfort, which is what makes it possible to build the passion and energy.